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Tuesday, 29 July 2025
Rape: Of the Victim and the Accused
Rape victims and survivors suffer great trauma what with all the commotion raised by internet users who took to various social media platforms to pour out their grievances after the release of Busola Dakolo's interview. A lot of people had a lot of things to say about the issues raised in the video and there were back and forth arguments about who to believe and who was lying. My thoughts? Well read on.
It takes a lot of strength, especially mental, for a person to come out and say he or she was raped and when such persons do come out let us, mere outsiders, not be too quick to judge and cast blames. Rape is a very painful experience, one that cannot be quickly forgotten, if at all it is gotten over. It does a lot to a person's self-esteem that most victims turn out to be desperate people who search for self-validation everywhere even at places where it is obvious that it cannot be found. I implore us all to show more attention and compassion to people that will come to us to report any sort of sexual violations they suffer.
There is a lot of pretense in the society today. A lot of people only get involved in conflicts when a well-known persona is a party but when the victim is an unknown person it becomes no one's business. Taking reference in Busola's case, her story became this popular only because she is a public figure. We should do our part and not turn deaf ears when the story is that of Nkechi, an helpless sixteen year old student that live in a local town. Let us please stop with the hypocrisy.
The shame culture that is practiced by Nigerians is a sad one indeed. It makes it so that victims of rape are ashamed and afraid to come out and tell their stories. They get to deal with the trauma that comes with the experience and also have to face the stigmatization that coming out will attract with it. Nobody ever wishes to be raped and it is entirely unfair to even suggest that the victim is to be blamed; the victim is never the cause. It is, therefore, our collective responsibility to create a society that respects rape victims as the survivors they truly are and to hold them at a high pedestal that is the complete opposite of the ridicule they would otherwise be put through.
It takes a lot of strength, especially mental, for a person to come out and say he or she was raped and when such persons do come out let us, mere outsiders, not be too quick to judge and cast blames. Rape is a very painful experience, one that cannot be quickly forgotten, if at all it is gotten over. It does a lot to a person's self-esteem that most victims turn out to be desperate people who search for self-validation everywhere even at places where it is obvious that it cannot be found. I implore us all to show more attention and compassion to people that will come to us to report any sort of sexual violations they suffer.
There is a lot of pretense in the society today. A lot of people only get involved in conflicts when a well-known persona is a party but when the victim is an unknown person it becomes no one's business. Taking reference in Busola's case, her story became this popular only because she is a public figure. We should do our part and not turn deaf ears when the story is that of Nkechi, an helpless sixteen year old student that live in a local town. Let us please stop with the hypocrisy.
The shame culture that is practiced by Nigerians is a sad one indeed. It makes it so that victims of rape are ashamed and afraid to come out and tell their stories. They get to deal with the trauma that comes with the experience and also have to face the stigmatization that coming out will attract with it. Nobody ever wishes to be raped and it is entirely unfair to even suggest that the victim is to be blamed; the victim is never the cause. It is, therefore, our collective responsibility to create a society that respects rape victims as the survivors they truly are and to hold them at a high pedestal that is the complete opposite of the ridicule they would otherwise be put through.
Now there are a lot of rape apologists out there justifying rape and giving stupid reasons and excuses such as, 'It's not rape when she was dressed provocatively', 'His no usually means yes', 'They deserved it'. Let me set this straight, sex without consent is rape. Sex with another person without the person's permission is rape and there is no such thing as silent approval. If you want to save yourself from being labelled as a rapist do not have sex with someone that is showing any sign of reluctance but instead go on to some other person that shares mutual interest with you. Trust me, there are many people out there that will meet your taste.
Another thing to discuss is rapists themselves. Do not be the unfortunate being that will forcefully take what is not freely given to you. Always consciously and deliberately try not to be in a situation where you'd have to sexually assault somebody, it is an advice I will always give to people that know they are weak in that respect. If you're someone that struggles with issues that make you do things you would rather not do then save someone the heartache and seek help, professional or not.
Furthermore, it will be a great crime to falsely accuse someone of rape when there was a consent before the action. A lot of people have chosen this period to bounce their pain on their preys. The false accusation is as costly as the rape offence itself. Because, this will not only tarnish the integrity and image of such person that has been wrongly accused, as the label will remain as a skin on such person, if not forever, but always.
As I conclude, my heart goes out to every person out there who has had to experience such hateful, depressing and painful ordeal, what happened is not your fault, you're stronger than you think and you're worthy of more. Love.
Saturday, 26 July 2025
Biography of Ayra Starr
Oyinkansola Sarah Aderibigbe, who is popularly and professionally known as Ayra Starr was born on the 14th of June 2002. She is a Nigerian singer and songwriter.
Born in Cotonou, Benin, Ayra Starr began a fashion career at the age of 16 with Quove Model Management before deciding to pursue music.
She was born to Nigerian parents from Kwara State and has four siblings.Her family moved frequently during her high school years because of her father's business, and as a result she had a hard time forming close friends.
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She attended Les Cours Sonou University and received a BA degree in international relations and political science. During her college years, she was often bullied by her classmates because of her age and appearance. To counter the feelings she experienced from being taunted, Ayra Starr turned to music. "I would listen to Nicki Minaj on my way to school, and I'd feel like the second Nicki Minaj.
After covering several songs by popular artists on Instagram, she posted her first original song on her page in December 2019. This brought her to the attention of record executive Don Jazzy, and led to her signing to Mavin Records.
Biography of Ayra Starr is active on social media. You can connect with her via her official handles on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.
Biography of Eniola Badmus
Eniola Badmus is a Nigerian Nollywood Actress
Eniola Badmus is also the Special Adviser to the Speaker, House of Representatives of the Federal Republic of Nigeriaon Social Events and Public Hearing (@speakerabass on IG)
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Biography of Sophia Chisom (Realsophy)
Sophia Chisom who is popularly known as Realsophy or Soso, is a Nigerian content creator, creative comedian and skit maker
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How to start a Football Academy in Nigeria
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A Football Academy in any part of the world is a place where young footballers go to know the requirement to register for that football academy, learn the proper techniques with several tips and tricks to prepare them for a professional career in the sport.
Most young people enrol into a Football Academy for one particular reason, which is to learn how to become world-class professional footballers. So, it is really vital to ensure that in setting up, your academy will be able to fulfil this fundamental purpose.
The football lovers are always willing to learn more, be it online or offline. Young footballers can even enrol online and also be able to open an account on Bet9ja to know more about football and learn something new beyond academic learning.
An Academy does not mean that it is a football club where more emphasis will be placed on winning trophies and attracting fans as well as sponsors. A football academy is more like a school, where youngsters learn, develop and hone their footballing skills.
Like every other institution of learning, there must be a minimum standard which every academy should meet for approval and accreditation.
The basic requirements to register your name in Football Academy of Nigeria
Presently, not so much is being checked, but if you really want your academy to be world-class, you have to put in place qualified personnel, equipment, world-class training method and facilities.
However, it is not just employing qualified coach from any sports institute of Nigeria or ex-players; they need to be developmental coaches mainly who are trained to groom the young football players.
What is required as well, is a well-levelled grass pitch for the training sessions, branded bibs, balls, swipes, cones and dummies for the right practice. Even Magnetic Board coloured clock for indoor classes is also required.
How to Register in a Football Academy of Nigeria
You don’t need to go to the Nigeria Football Federation office to enrol your academy. You can register it through State Football Association.
All your need to do is to obtain the registration form and pay the fees. You can make a one-time payment or as yearly dues as academies do not yet pay institutional tax in Nigeria.
Why you need to register Your Football Academy
It is illegal to operate a football academy in Nigeria without registration. Even nobody wants to enrol themselves in a sub-standard and unregistered clubs which just go by the name of the academy. An unregistered academy will not have the legal right to claim your players.
So, you can easily run a profitable football academy in Nigeria if you register your academy legally.
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