Biography of Abayomi Adeola Nelson (Della)

Born on 23rd August, 1998, Abayomi Adeola Tolulope Nelson (Della) is a professional product manager, life and business coach. She is also an entrepreneur, and social workers who is interested in the progress of Education in Africa and loves to drive people into their highest potentials.

Adeola Abayomi has over 4 years of experience in Digital Marketing and Business Development. Currently, Adeola Abayomi is a Business Developer at Kolo Nigeria, where she focuses on creating business frameworks based on Marketing and Communications. She builds women in God through word and prayer to be trained for their unique positions in kingdom work.

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A graduate of Law from the Obafemi Awolowo University, Della was a fellow of Young African Leaders Initiative (YALI) where she was trained in leadership, critical thinking and problem solving. She is currently a fellow of Women Techsters at Tech4Dev where she’s building a career in Product Management.

She has delivered speeches, lectures and opinions at the Skill Craft Advance Learning and Education under Desh Bhaget University, India and Liverpool John Moores University, UK and UCAM in Spain, including The Tribune Newspaper in Nigeria, Greena FM in Ghana to mention a few.

Abayomi Adeola Nelson (Della) is active on social media. You can connect with her via her official handles on Facebook, Instagram, Tiktok and X.

Is Your Money Happy With You?

 As Visionary men and women we want to create systems that will bring in the cash flow in order to execute projects passionate to us and that which God has laid in our hearts. However, the truth is that if you want money for “show off”, or because you want validation from others, chances are, you might never make the money.

Money isn’t human. It cannot think, feel, and doesn’t have a sense of its own. As such, money wouldn’t come lying next to you because you are good, kind, forgiving or even a Christian. It will only come where it is CALLED and stay where it is MANAGED. Money is very obedient you know; very cool something.

Your money being happy with you equates to you having a progressing/fulfilled financial life, and money is first and foremost and entity that occurs in the mind.

I want us to see our minds like a store room with lots of folders and files in different sections. If you are given a project to work on a presentation for a “100 duplex estate”, and your company has archives where they have different sources of completed projects. Now there’s one section with a folder named “Lekki 1000 capacity church project” and there is another one termed “75 duplex estate”. Which will you refer to in order to implement similar strategies in your current project? Definitely, we will pick the later project.

Here is a short story, I watched a movie yesterday where this lovely lady was constantly violent to her sweet partner. After tracing the problem, it was told that her father constantly abused her, her sister and mother physically, and eventually she had to stand up to him to protect them and it was on going till he passed. Because of this, she has had the need to defend herself from even with little or no provocation. That is the mind at work.

That said, I want to emphatically state that the mind imbibes what it is fed, and that includes word (ours and others), sights (ours and other), and experiences (ours and others). 

Our mind houses our thoughts, which leads to feelings, which leads actions and then result, and we most know that amongst other things, money is a RESULT, and such we must first deal with what is not seen in order to deal with what is seen, because it is what we do behind the stage that matters the most as this is what births the results we see on the stage.

Read: How to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone in 2025

Thankfully, change is a constant thing in life, but it doesn’t just come to us, change comes to us with intentionality. Like the almighty formula, change also has its formula;

•    First and foremost be aware of any limiting mindset you have towards money, whether caused by you or another (might be parents, guardians, siblings, friends and society). This is done through introspecting. Sit and interrogate yourself and give honest answers.

•    Under the root of it all, because you cannot change the fruits without first changing the roots. When you know a problem, the next thing you’ll know is the solution.

•    Detach yourself from limiting money mindset, as well as the habits it fostered in you. Detach yourself from people who also have limiting mindset as regards money.

•    Reposition yourself in your new throne and do all it takes to be a legal Queen and King of money. RULE MONEY, DON’T LET IT RULE YOU.

Having a good mindset is sure a stepping stone to making your money happy and more comfortable to be around you. But in order for the money in your hands to call its associates (money as well; as we know, it never gets exhausted) to come stay with you, you will have to manage the one in your hands, as the saying goes, to whom much is given, much is expected. Money seldom returns to where it had been or is currently being squandered.

Making our money happy with us so it can dutifully serve us is no rocket science. The easiest way to do this is to learn and discipline oneself to save and invest. There are six major savings I believe anyone serious about scaling their finances should have. These should be done monthly, it is only in consistency we see results. Short term consistency is better than long term intensity. Just save regardless of your earnings.

• 10% tithing (I am an ardent believer of tithing)
• 10% into savings that is kept for emergencies. (No matter how well put together you are, you cannot predict all of life’s outcome).
• 10% into investments (this money should not be spent but invested into a worthy course).
• 10% for personal development (books and courses, and sometimes hiring a coach in areas you want to become better in)
• 10% for helping (you can name this charity account). PS, when the funds here are exhausted for the month, push forward all other charity case to the next month. Truth is, you cannot solve the whole problem in the world, no matter how you try. 
• 10% for playing. (have fun, see a movie, get your nails done, buy that dress, just spoil yourself), remember the law of gravity, what goes up must come down, and I am sure that happens because of balance. Learn to balance things. All work and no play makes Jack dull. All play and no work, makes Jack valueless.

Also, another way to scale our finances higher is to invest and (or) engage in passive income as much as we can. Passive income is money earned on an investment, or work completed in the past, that continues to make money without any additional effort. Active income, on the other hand, is money earned in exchange for performing a service.

Do not get it wrong. Active income is very important, in fact, it is the first type of income earned before the passive income. Rich people invest part of their active income to create passive income, poor people are okay earning active income all their lives.

There are several ways of earning passive income, investing in real estate is one of them, as it is said, don’t wait to buy a property, buy a property and wait, so if you have the money, what are you waiting for? Also network marketing is a proven and sure passive income, if only you are ready to put in the work and commitment it requires from the onset.

Buying shares and stocks, and waiting for them to appreciate is another passive income but this requires you having lots of knowledge and experience in that area. If you are up for it anyways, DO YOUR THING. You might also need to hire a stock broker. Visit the link below to get more information https://dominionng.com/download-nigerian-stock-exchange-daily-price-list/

We are in an exponential decade and everything is increasing and becoming better by the day. Learn a high income skill that resonates with you. It could be digital marketing, affiliate marketing, copywriting, web design, graphics design, to mention but a few. 

Most importantly, search inwards. We all have talents, gifting that are embedded in us. Horn your craft and monetize them. 

I will like to wrap this up by sharing lessons I learnt from the Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T Harv Eker and a video of Vice President, Living Faith Church, Worldwide, Bishop David Abioye where he said “Young people, take risks. Don’t take it easy. Do as much as you can. Be daring”. 

Like we said earlier, be rich in your mind and by so doing, you will always put in the work to develop yourself because the law of income states that your money can only grow to the extent that you do. Create your life and do not go about with the mentality that “life happens”. Play the money game to always win and if you fail, play again and again and again. Be committed to growing your finance, it is not a one day’s race, remember, little drops of water make an ocean. Always think big by focusing on opportunities and not obstacles. Do not resent other rich people, instead, admire them, model them and associate with them. Promote yourself (rich people aren’t shy), there’s actually no place for shy people in the world of today. Improve yourself on a daily basis so you’ll be bigger than challenges, they are bound to come. Be an excellent giver and receiver. Expand your horizons (you can actually eat your cake and have, as long as you eat on the right table). Manage your present finances. Endeavour to generate as much passive income as you can. Do not let fear stop you. Always learn. Always grow, but don’t forget to have fun while at it. Most importantly, walk around with a BILLIONAIRE MIND.

How to Forgive Yourself

 

This sounds cliche but something that shouldn't be joked with. Many people spend their entire lives carrying the problems of their past. They refuse to forgive themselves. Some tell themselves, it's my fault, even when it clearly wasn't. They think that if they tell themselves this enough they would believe it and it would help them avoid such mistakes in the past. Truth is this works, but you damage yourself when you blame yourself every time for your mistakes little or large. You end up having nightmares because you have refused to forgive yourself and let go of the past.

Fun fact, do you know that if you find it difficult to forgive yourself, you will also find it difficult to forgive the mistakes of others. It would even be worse when others wronged you deliberately. You won't ever forget their wrongs and soon you will seek revenge. This is the tale of so many who are waiting on trial or rotting in prison. Well, some have avoided prison but are locked in the prison of their minds.

You will never experience true freedom if you don't learn how to forgive yourself. I want you to know and remember everyday that you are a human being. Human beings are bound to make mistakes. When you remind yourself of this, you are more aware of yourself, love yourself and stay sane. When you have total mental wellbeing, you end up making less mistakes. You improve yourself and you feel more confident. You bear no grudges with people and live a life worthy of emulation.

This is a life worth living. A truly happy life. Please dear, forgive yourself and forget your past mistakes.

How to Lose Weight Without Exercise

  

You want to lose some weight but are not up for rigorous exercise. Or maybe your schedule is tight these days and you can’t commit to going to the gym or even workout at home daily. You don’t want to use slimming tea and you’re afraid of the side effects as well. Losing weight can be an uphill task and sometimes frustrating. It's not a day’s job to lose weight gained over time. And it can be frustrating when you have religiously followed weight loss prescriptions but the results are not there.

Worst still are situations where people go to the extent of endangering their health to lose weight and some of these approaches can be unsustainable as well. 

While it is not advisable to rule out exercise completely because of its inherent importance to the body (especially at this time when we sit more than we move around). Intermittent fasting has proven to be another healthy option to get rid of the extra body fat. A scientific inquiry discovered that intermittent fasting is effective for weight loss of 7-11 pounds over 10 weeks. 

Research has also discovered that with Intermittent Fasting (IF) you don't lose weight only. Still, your brain also benefits from it as well as other health benefits. And if followed through can be inculcated as a healthy lifestyle.

What is Intermittent Fasting (IF)

Intermittent Fasting (IF) is a healthy way of losing weight that involves measurably or fully abstaining from eating for an extended period before eating normally again. Unlike dieting you’re not restricted from eating what you want but with a reduced portion at a specific time. 

Fasting for hours a day and sticking to the eating window to eat whatever you want to eat can help you burn body fat. 

So you are not just losing weight but the body fat stored in your body is burned up during the fasting stage.

Some experts said our bodies are wired to go longer periods without food and this is shown in ancient humans that have limited access to food. They engage in hunting and some other activities (that are energy-consuming) for an extended time before they can have access to food. 

I just want you to know that it's possible to stay away from food for hours to help you lose weight. Imagine you have 24/7 access to fast food, I mean all you need to do is go down to a grocery store and you have varieties of food to choose from. You go to work and sit almost all day or maybe you work from home- your ability to move around is significantly reduced. So how do you want your body to reduce the build-up of calories if you can’t go to the gym or work out regularly?

 

Read: 10 Habits of Highly Successful People

You guessed it right-intermittent fasting. When you take breaks from eating, your body will tap in from the fat stored in your body as energy to keep you moving or thriving or going about your business. As a beginner you need to start small which is the right thing to do because it is going to take a little time to get used to it. You will reap the amazing rewards thereof and your beautiful body will thank you for it.

For a starter, you can start immediately with these schedules 12:12 (hours of fasting: eating window) 14:10, and 16:8. These are the shortest periods that you can start your new journey with and adjust accordingly afterward depending on your flow or capacity. Some gurus can go with one meal a day or two days for the entire week. But you don’t need that right now.

Benefits of Intermittent Fasting

Using Intermittent as a healthy way to lose weight, its a good option and you’ll end up not just losing weight but reaping other health benefits.

Mark Mattson, a neuroscientist who studied intermittent fasting for 25 years has this to say about the benefits of IF 

“Many things happen during intermittent fasting that can protect organs against chronic diseases like type 2 diabetes, heart disease, age-related neurodegenerative disorders, even inflammatory bowel disease, and many cancers,”

Research also revealed the following health benefits of intermittent fasting apart from losing weight.

• Enhance mental clarity- Studies done on intermittent fasting show that it helps to boost human memory.

• Higher level of energy- You will lose fat while maintaining muscle mass.

• Keeps your heart in shape- Intermittent fasting strengthens blood pressure and normal heart rates as well as other heart-related measurements.

• Improved sleep quality- This is one thing that can help you sleep better at night.

• Wards off Type 2 diabetes and obesity. Studies have proved that Intermittent fasting prevents obesity. In six brief studies, obese adults lost weight through intermittent fasting.

Tips to Help You Succeed In Your Weight Loss Journey Using Intermittent Fasting (IF)

• Hug yourself and love yourself just the way you are, taking it one day at a time. You don’t rush the process.
• Stick with the schedule that is suitable for you.
• Embrace how you feel especially during the fasting hours, don’t fight it.
• Drink lots of water, lots of water. You’ll need it, especially when hunger pangs hit. It will help you stay hydrated and energized. You can spice up your water by adding lemon, ginger, cucumber, etc.
• Snack on fruits or take smoothies if you need to eat something during the fasting hours.
• Eat wholesome meals after fasting, feast on wholesome balanced meals but try not to overeat. Resist the urge to eat junk or soft drinks to get better results.
• Track your progress. You can check your weight occasionally and measure your waistline. When you see the result, you will be motivated to keep moving.
• If you fail the 1st time, 2nd time, 3rd time, or multiples times, please don't be hard on yourself or even fall back. You go again the next day. Give yourself grace. Habits are formed with small actions taken consistently. 

This is an easy way but not an easy way to lose weight. You might feel tired, headache, or hunger (but if you’re sick or you need to fuel your body, then take care of your body) in the first week of intermittent fasting but this is your body trying to adjust to the new lifestyle. If you can power through this phase you will be well on your way to losing weight. 

I know it’s not easy to adjust to a new lifestyle but we need that summer body and most importantly our body needs to be healthy to function optimally.

Have you tried intermittent fasting or was this helpful?

Let me know in the comment

 

    

Man Know Thyself– Socrates

The great philosopher, Socrates was very right when he said that man should know himself. How well do you know yourself? Knowing yourself speaks to self-knowledge, self-awareness and mindfulness. One thing I have discovered is that many human beings are not original. Their thoughts are not their thoughts. Their opinions are not theirs. This shouldn’t be.

What does self-knowledge mean? According to Stanford Encyclopedia of philosophy, self-knowledge refers to knowledge of one’s own sensations, thoughts, beliefs, and other mental states. It also means a person’s understanding of themselves, how they think, their feelings and behavior.

 Knowing who you are is very important. When you know yourself, you know why you think the way you think and why you do things the way you do. When you know yourself, you know your purpose; the reason why you are here on earth. When you know yourself, you know how much you are lacking and how much you need to improve. A lot of people do not know themselves. When you do not know yourself, you do not have a mind of your own. You can be easily controlled by the situations and people in your life. So it is very important to know yourself.

Now, knowing yourself isn’t just about knowing your best color, food, drink, etc. It’s about getting to know you like you get to know another human being. It is about enjoying being in your presence. It may sound just wrong. Why would I want to be around myself when I am always with me? If you find hanging out alone really boring, maybe you don’t know yourself enough to enjoy your company. When you don’t know yourself, you do not know your value, neither can you appreciate your worth. Anyone can be allowed to take advantage of what you have to offer because you do not know how much it is worth. When you do not know yourself, everything goes. You do not control life, life controls you.

What are the benefits of knowing yourself?

There are so many benefits to knowing yourself. Some of them include:

1. You live at peace with yourself: When you know yourself, you realize that you are happy with yourself. A lot of people are strangers to themselves. No one can live happily with a stranger all their life except they get to know that stranger and invest in the relationship. So get to know yourself by spending more quality time with yourself. I’m not speaking about the time you spend alone doing some chore or watching a movie or listening to music. Really get to know you. Sit down and enjoy your own solitude. Probe yourself as to why you act the way you do. You can never be at peace with yourself if you are angry with yourself or hate yourself for your past mistakes which have cost you lost opportunities. Whatever your beef with yourself is, come to peace with yourself. Tell yourself, it is time to make this relationship work.

2. You live a Happy life: Everyone desires to have a happy life. Chances are that you do all you do to try to be happy. Getting to know yourself makes you see the good in yourself and work at improving yourself daily which makes you ultimately happy.

3. You see no other competition except yourself: When you know yourself, you realize that there is only one of you. You don’t spend your entire life wishing you were someone else. You see the importance of striving to be the best version of yourself. Rather than hate on others, you appreciate the gifts they have and learn from their success.

4. You have more confidence in yourself and abilities: Knowing who you are and who you were created to be gives you all the confidence you need to achieve success. It gives you a head start in seeking the right resources and support system you need to getting you where you need to be.

5. Knowing who you are teaches you self-control: Learning self-control is so important in living a beautiful life. You know how to manage your needs, finances, relationships and other areas concerning your life. A person with self-control manages their emotion well and know how to make good decisions for themselves and others around them.

When you know yourself, you live a truly happy life. It is when you discover who you are that you know how best to live. You see, people always look to you to know how best to address you. If you do not know your worth, the world will never acknowledge you. So don’t despise yourself. Don’t look down on your little beginnings. Never measure or compare yourself with other people. Those that do this are not wise. You are only permitted to learn from other people. Never forget that you are so special. The world waits upon you to give what you were designed to.

10 Proven Ways to Develop Your Focus in 2026

  

 Focus by definition is the act of paying attention to a particular object, task or a goal. It can also be defined as the act of directing one’s energy or efforts towards a specific achievement or goal.

Developing focus is one of the most  crucial skill in today's world, where distractions are abound. People who have the ability to focus can achieve more in less time and have better outcomes in their personal and professional lives.

 Developing focus makes you not to be distracted by irrelevant things, you get more things done in less time , enhances your decision making, increase your creativity and also improves your memory. It’s a life skill that everyone should master. Being focus improves your performance, reduce stress, and enhance your general well-being.

 Here are the top 10 proven methods to help develop focus:

1.  Meditation

 Meditation is a powerful tool to train your mind to focus. Meditation helps to train the mind to be focused by building mental stamina and inner calmness. Meditation helps in mind recollection, increase your mindfulness which is being present and aware in each moment.  It helps you to become more aware of your thoughts and emotions, and develop the ability to focus on a single task.

2.  Exercise

 Exercise is not just good for your physical health, it also helps you to clear your mind and focus better. Regular exercise can increase your concentration, memory and focus. 

Exercise increases blood flow to the brain which enhances focus and cognitive functioning, it reduces your stress level by decreasing the production of cortisol, a stress hormone. This develop your focus by removing distracting thoughts and feelings. 

Asides the reduction of stress, exercise also improves your mood by increasing the production of “feel good” hormones that makes one happy and in good mood. This improves clarity of thoughts and a focused mind.

3.  Breaks

Taking breaks is an effective strategy to increase focus and productivity by giving the brain a chance to rest. Excessively indulging the brain can lead to fatigue and stress, reduced cognitive reasoning and a reduced mental clarity. Taking short breaks between tasks can help you to recharge your brain and come back to your work with renewed energy. Give your brain a chance to rest to avoid mental fatigue  

4.  Prioritization

 Prioritizing your tasks can help you to focus on the most important things first. This helps you to avoid getting bogged down by unimportant tasks and allows you to focus on what really matters. Make sure you prioritize your task based on their importance and execute them in that other. In that way you will be more focused because you are starting from the most important to the less important.

5.  Eliminate Distractions

 Distractions can be a major hindrance to developing focus. Eliminating distractions like social media notifications, unnecessary emails, and phone calls can help you to focus on the task at hand. You eliminate distraction by removing any distractive gadget away from you, and ensure you work in a noise free environment with less distraction.

6. Time Management

 Good time management skills can help you to stay focused on your tasks. Making a schedule and sticking to it can help you to avoid procrastination and stay focused. Scheduling a specific time for specific activity help you to avoid multi tasking and increase your focus.

7.  Visualization

Visualization is a powerful technique to help develop focus. Visualizing your goal, and the steps needed to achieve it, can help you to stay focused and motivated. Having a clear picture of your destination will enhance your level of dedication and focus. It’s a great motivation to keep eyes on the goal.

8.  Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of being present in the moment. It helps you to focus on what is happening right now, and not get distracted by past or future events. Mindfulness is finding peace with the present, irrespective of how the past has been, or how the future looks like. Its help you to do what you are supposed to do per time towards the achievement of a goal. 

9.  Get Enough Sleep

Lack of sleep can greatly affect your ability to focus. Getting enough sleep can help you to stay alert and focused throughout the day. Sleeping is one of the way to clear your mind and energize your brain. It makes the brain to renew it’s energy and sharpens the mind.

10. Stay Hydrated

Dehydration can affect your cognitive abilities and make it difficult to focus. Drinking enough water can help you to stay hydrated and focused. Water is essential to life and it helps in mental alertness. Water helps the brain cells to be active in communication, clears toxins and waste that can impairs optimum brain functions. Staying hydrated improves cognitive reasoning and an improved focus.

Conclusion

Developing focus is a skill that can be learned and improved upon. It’s very essential in achieving success by making us productive. By incorporating these proven methods into your daily routine, you can improve your ability to focus and achieve your goals more efficiently.

 

The Best Way to Consistently Read in 2025 - Toluwanimi Okunade

  

Remember the time you read a caption attached to a picture on Instagram, or when you read the headline on a billboard that had your favorite celebrity on it? Without any doubt, we all read and that is to say, the usual “reading is not my thing” isn’t exactly true. 

Statistics show that an American CEO reads an average of fifty to a hundred books yearly and an employee doesn’t get to finish a book. The big question is, what does the CEO do that the employee isn’t doing? 

Reading is an important skill, but to read consistently, the first thing to do is to know your why. Why do you want to read? Your reason matters, much more than you know. Finding a reason shows how committed you are to what you do. This is important because it will keep you going on mornings where like Bruno Mars, ‘you just don’t feel like doing anything.

Reading is more than just a hobby, it is a serious business and as such, you should have a solid reason for reading. Many people changed the trajectory of their lives because they read. Asking yourself why does two things:

Improves your comprehension of a book. 

Also increases your chances of finishing a book.

Reading helps you in learning something new every day, and the funny thing is, you might not realize it, but reading stockpiles your brain with new information, and you never know when it may come in handy.

Asides from learning new things, reading helps you network properly. Reading on different subject matters like advocacy, science, investment, medicine, entrepreneurship, history, to mention but a few gives you more confidence to talk to people in various fields, thereby increasing your network.

It is said that people who read are more likely to get ahead when it comes to their careers and life in general. Honor Wilson-Fletcher said that reading, “opens doors and makes life easier”.

Reading also expands your vocabulary. The more you read, the more words you will come across, which you are likely to use in your writing and speaking, making you an arsenal, loaded with vocabulary and smart-sounding.

Reading makes one appealing to the opposite sex. Study shows that reading makes you seem more intelligent and that draws attraction to the reader.

According to Cristel Russell, a behavioral researcher, reading helps with stress or turmoil occurring in one’s life. If you’re going through a break-up, or simply just need to relax, try a new book, rather than crying or sulking or engaging in a negative habit, read a book because reading is said to be therapeutic.

To perfectly harness the skill of reading, one must learn to create systems and not just goals. James Clear in his book “Atomic Habits” said, “You do not rise to the level of your goals, but fall to the level of your systems”. You might fall out of a goal when you achieve what you want, but your systems are you, when you constantly inculcate good values, they become your personality. Good and bad habits are inculcated in the same manner.

“Little drops make an ocean”, I am sure you have heard that quote a thousand and one times. It might be a common quote but it is true. Consistency is power. If you have never walked 5 miles and decide to run 1000 miles today, there is a high chance of you not running the next day and the day after that and that wouldn’t afford you the growth you need. Sustainable growth isn’t in the much you do today but in the little, you do today, tomorrow, and the days, months, and years after that. Build a habit of reading daily, no matter how small, and be intentional about it.

Finally, don’t go about reading anything; read materials in the areas you desire growth.